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May 21

Coaching in Asia with Barbara Anderson

By Robert Holmes | podcast

Asia is the frontier for growth and development, are you part of the Coaching in Asia game? China’s economy has now outstripped the USA and India is chasing hard. Coaching is rising up in every Asian nation, rich and poor, so who is set to play a significant part in that development?

Barbara Anderson talks to us about her adventures Coaching in Asia and come of the critical lessons she has learned from working in large corporations in Australia. Ironically, we must first do away with our rich nation, first world idealism… thinking we have the answers. It would be much more helpful to have a conversation as peers, learning from one another.

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May 14

Overstepping Empathy

By Robert Holmes | emotions

Everyone needs to learn to express more empathy. It’s good for business. When clients feel understood they come back, it improves their experience. It builds better relationships and if you’re in the coaching business – it is absolutely central to your survival. The ability to establish rapport with a client very often rests on your […]

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Jul 05

Gut Instinct

By Robert Holmes | coach mentoring

The Body Brain I was listening to a podcast from Shrink Wrap Radio yesterday. It’s a program dedicated to interviewing psychologists, researchers, movie makers and authors about current trends and learning. The interview was with Dr. David Van Nuys and his book “Mindsight” about our body brain. 

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Jul 01

Stress Management

By Robert Holmes | Uncategorized

By Robert I Holmes The trainer at the stress management conference was a confident young lady. She was explaining stress management to the audience, then turned to pick up a prop: a raised glass of water. Everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, ‘Is this glass half empty or half full?’… but […]

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Jul 01

The Stockdale Paradox

By Robert Holmes | Uncategorized

In his landmark book “Good to Great” author Jim Collins tracks the story of Admiral Jim Stockdale, a United States military officer held captive for eight years during the Vietnam War. Stockdale was tortured numerous times but never gave up hope. During an interview for the book, Stockdale told Collins that he never lost faith […]

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Jun 30

Pretending To Know

By Robert Holmes | Uncategorized

Thom Porro is a funny, good natured, candid, authentic and lithe man at the top of his game. A CEO in Seattle, he is part of an executives group there and coached by Susan Scott. A few years ago Don Aubrey (another member of that group) and Thom started mountain climbing together. At first they […]

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Jun 28

The Importance Of Being Flexible

By Robert Holmes | business coaching

It’s important to stay flexible. Plans change, business is in flux, scheduled meetings move, flights get delayed, your web site crashes. Go with the flow, otherwise your blood pressure can rise to dangerous levels. This was reinforced to me over the weekend again and again. For example, I had a 3 o’clock meeting with David, […]

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Jun 27

The Rising Cost of Prosperity

By Robert Holmes | Uncategorized

I was talking to a friend this week about her tax arrangements. It seems that over the years her level of taxation has risen (at least in her perception) in spite of a fairly constant income in her business. We discussed her various arrangement (family trust, business net profit, personal income) and it revealed that […]

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Jun 26

The Word Hope

By Sue Hefren | Uncategorized

Working with people as they deal with the deepest and most important issues in life is beyond doubt one of the most amazing privileges. Lately, when Iíve been coaching people, Iíve noticed that some particular words keep coming up again and again. The first of them I noticed was “hope”. The most distressing and disturbing […]

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Jun 25

The Word Power

By Sue Hefren | Uncategorized

If the most common complaint people have is hopelessness, helplessness runs a close second. Helplessness comes from feeling completely disempowered. It always fascinates me how many grown adults live very disempowered lives. It seems commonplace for people to give all their power away to others and feel helpless and completely unable to control the life […]

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Jun 25

Cost of the Upgrade

By Robert Holmes | Uncategorized

A few months ago I attended Eastern Creek California Superbike day 3 cornering training. At the end I got talking to the day 4 coach , who gave me some valuable feedback. “Your bike is a really good one, hang on to it, resist the temptation to upgrade. You’re riding a road bike on the […]

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Jun 24

Going with the Flow

By Robert Holmes | Uncategorized

I heard a business presenter once speak about the flow of life. He talked about finding the rhythm of life, and going with that. In hindsight I think it was a bit too jungle for the concrete and steel labyrinth I lived in at the time, but I think I know what he means now […]

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Jun 20

When Coaches Need Coaching

By Robert Holmes | Uncategorized

Being in business with someone is a bit like being married, or being in a long term relationship. The marriage not only creates much more than the individual, it also brings new dynamics, stresses, opportunities and challenges that were not there before. In marriage there are children, a house and life together. In business there […]

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Jun 19

Be Do Have

By Robert Holmes | business coaching

To download this exercise to do it for yourself, click here. Recently our team have been discussing the need to ‘be’ instead of being so caught up in ‘doing’. We all know people who are trying to get a different outcome for themselves, and they are ìtrying everything they knowî to get change. The problem however, […]

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Jun 18

Self Sabbotage

By Robert Holmes | Uncategorized

In the course of being a life coach, I come across people who’s own expectations for themselves run far below what they are capable of, and what they deserve, from my outsider’s perspective. Consider the following two people: Example A: was sexually violated as a child. It happened in her home, when her brother was […]

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Jun 16

Relax And Be Productive

By Sue Hefren | Uncategorized

By Tony Schwartz THINK for a moment about your typical workday. Do you wake up tired? Check your e-mail before you get out of bed? Skip breakfast or grab something on the run that’s not particularly nutritious? Rarely get away from your desk for lunch? Run from meeting to meeting with no time in between? […]

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Jun 14

Freeconomy Modelling

By Robert Holmes | Uncategorized

Mark Boyle is a crazy Irishman. He decided that, starting on “Buy Nothing Day” in 2009, he would live without money for a year. He wrote a book about his experience titled “Freeconomy” and a great blog site called www.justfortheloveofit.org. Yeah OK, living without money is a pretty radical idea, but Mark invested himself heavily, […]

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Jun 13

Going After What You Want

By Robert Holmes | Uncategorized

Last week I talked about the power of modelling – finding someone who has what you want, finding out what it took the to get there, then copying them. Being inspired! This week I want to delve into going after what you want. I recently sold my car, and I was without one. I knew […]

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Jun 12

Too Many Options

By Robert Holmes | Uncategorized

There is a psychological phenomena called “option fatigue” which results from the over-abundant alternatives and options we face, especially in the West. There is an excess of choice. Sometimes what looks like a personal problem is actually situational or environmental problem. What looks like lack of motivation (laziness) turns out to be fatigue (exhaustion). We […]

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Jun 11

Check Your Values

By Robert Holmes | Uncategorized

Have you ever been in a meeting, which had an agenda, but the discussion wandered around from topic to topic, or someone took it off in a direction you would never have predicted. I was in a board meeting like that recently. I was there as an observer. The meeting kicked off with the usual […]

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Jun 08

Reducing Stress

By Robert Holmes | Uncategorized

Most of us think we’re smarter than average, quicker than average, weigh less than average and that our choices are better than average.(1) Can we really also be so good? Take stress relief for example. Most of us, when asked to list our top five ways of de-stressing, think of what we do – and […]

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Jun 06

Who’s Listening to You?

By Robert Holmes | Uncategorized

Marketing is simply the process of telling someone about a cool thing you want to share. It might be a sermon, a blog post, a youtube video, a product or a service. When I talk to people about marketing, I discuss the various aspects related to the process. I use a very simplified model (not […]

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Jun 05

Holding on to your Dreams

By Robert Holmes | Uncategorized

Sometimes you have a big dream in your heart, something you know belongs to you, and you should have it. I’m not talking about idolatry, greed or violent things… I mean destiny – calling – vocation. It should be yours. A friend of mine knows he’s supposed to crack the one-to-many training environment. Another knows […]

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Jun 04

Internal Struggle

By Robert Holmes | Uncategorized

Have you ever lent a friend money when they were desperate? My friend was pretty desperate, and had asked before, but this time it was serious. I explained our situation, the conditions under which we’d lend and so forth. But after agreeing… I found myself judging their choices fairly strongly. I just didn’t agree with […]

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Jun 03

Let’s Make a Deal!

By Robert Holmes | Uncategorized

Will power. Most of us want more of it. We lament when we lack it. It’s a limited resource that we get new every morning like the milk that used to be delivered in glass bottles to the door. That will power resource is depleted one decision at a time, until at last we have […]

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